The Phoenix Society
For women who dare more
The free course that comes with the book: one short lesson, three questions and one mini-action per chapter. For when reading this book isn't enough and you want it to land.
Plus Dare To Ask, the conversation-starter game that hands you the words you usually swallow.
This isn’t a book you read and shelve. It changes something in you, if you let it.
Glad you’re here, and that you want more out of this book. Maybe it’s still on your nightstand, maybe it’s lying open halfway through, maybe you finished it months ago.
You could have read it like any other book. Start, read through, close, done. But you want more. Call it curiosity, or recognition, or something you can’t quite name yet.
That says something about you.
Maybe you’re about to start and you want it to land properly, not just read it but feel what it does to you. Maybe you’re halfway in and certain scenes keep looping in your head. Or you finished it and one question won’t let go: now what?
Or maybe you saw yourself in Emma. In her doubts. In that fuck it moment. And you’re wondering whether it could work for you too.
This is the place where those questions get an answer.
Quick check: joining only makes sense if you have the book within reach. Just started, halfway, finished, all fine.
Every chapter comes with deepening questions that pull more out of the book (honestly, joining before you start is the best way to read it). Sometimes you’ll want to re-read a scene. Sometimes I’ll point you toward a deeper meaning tied to a specific chapter. And sometimes there are puzzles that go further still, the kind you can only crack with the book in hand.
Don’t have the book yet? Here you can buy Secret Desires.
What is The Phoenix Society?
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A community of women who dare
Women who are honest about what they want, who share their stories, who back each other up instead of judging.
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No cult. No bullshit.
No sales pitches, no vague promises. Just stuff for women who are mid-book, or just closed it, and think: now what?
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The phoenix stands for rebirth
For women who shake off the ashes of their old selves and discover who they really are.
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You're not alone
Read what other women wrote. Share your own. It helps, knowing you’re not the only one who feels this way.
The heart of The Phoenix Society
The course with the book
Every chapter you read hands you four things. No homework, no obligations. Real change, though.
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A short lesson
One insight from the chapter, pulled out and aimed at your own life. Three minutes to read, a week to let it settle.
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Three questions
Not surface stuff. Three that make you stop and notice what the chapter stirred up in you.
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One mini-action
Small enough to do today. Big enough to shift something. No grand life plan, just a first step.
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One sentence to carry with you
For when the rest of the week tugs at you and you need something small to hold onto.
Just finished the book? You’ll find a second layer in it. Halfway through, and every next chapter lands deeper. And if you’re just starting, this is honestly the most beautiful way to read it.
Dare To Ask
The conversation-starter game, also free
Some things get stuck on the tip of your tongue. Too charged to say. Too awkward to be the one who puts it on the table.
So here’s a game. Cards with questions that break the ice, for your partner, a friend, or that one sister you never quite dare to ask things. Sometimes playful, sometimes blunt, always an opening.
What have you never dared ask me?
When were you last truly turned on - and by what?
Which fantasy have you never shared with anyone?
What would you try if no one ever found out?
Three levels: warming up, deeper, and fuck it. You decide how far you go. The game does the work. You just draw a card.
The course and the game are the heart. But it doesn't stop there.
And you also get
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The Spa Sister Quiz
Mirjam, Ruth, Gabriella, or Emma? Find out which Spa Sister sits closest to you.
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The deleted chapters
Scenes that ran too hot for the book. Members only.
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New stories
How are things going with Mirjam? With Ruth? You’ll hear it first.
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Behind the scenes
The real stories behind the fiction.
Discover Yourself - Reflection Questions
Digging deeper
You’ll get a fresh set of reflection questions. Not the “so what are your hobbies” kind. Real ones. The kind that keep you up at night. Or should.
When was the last time you did something purely because YOU wanted to - not your partner, not your kids, not your boss?
What would you do if no one ever found out?
Which part of yourself have you tucked away to seem “normal”?
What do you miss most about the woman you were before all the compromises?
No right or wrong. No judgment. Just you, a glass of wine, and honesty.
The Forum
Your story matters
Some conversations you can’t have with your girlfriends, your sister, or even your therapist. Here you can.
Post anonymously - Share what you need to share without your name
Find recognition - “Oh god, I thought I was the only one”
Ask for advice - From women who get it
Success stories - Inspire others with your leap
Moderated, safe, free of judgment. What’s said here, stays here.
Bookclub & Discussions
Reading together hits differently than reading alone. Our monthly bookclub goes deeper.
Chapter by chapter
What touched you? Where did you cringe? Where did you think: that’s me?
Character analyses
Why did Ruth do what she did? Would you have done it differently?
The uncomfortable questions
The things no one dares to say out loud.
Guest discussions
Sometimes Dahlia herself joins. Or one of the real “Spa Sisters”.
Self-Insight Challenges
Small assignments, big insights
The Mirror Challenge - Say something kind to yourself every day for a week. Sounds easy. It isn’t.
The No Experiment - Say “no” for three days to things you don’t want. Note what happens.
Letter to Your Younger Self - What would you tell her?
The Wish List - Everything you ever wanted to try but didn’t dare. No censorship.
A Day for You - Plan 24 hours where everything revolves around what YOU want. Then do it.
Join in when you want. Share your experiences if you dare. Or keep them to yourself.
What you don’t get: Spam. Your data sold. Boring newsletters. — Max 2x per month. If I’m writing it, it’s not boring.
I made this for the women who open the book and think: I have to do something with this. Whether that’s on page 1 or page 250. No sales pitches, no bullshit. Just content for women who dare more.
Start the course
Completely free
Just your email, and you’re in: the course with the book, the Dare To Ask game, all of it. No credit card, nothing hidden, no hassle.
Know a girlfriend who deserves this too? Make sure she gets the book. Because some secrets you only share with women you wish well.
Don’t have the book yet? Here you can buy Secret Desires.
Ready to let this book land?
Start the free course with the book. The Dare To Ask game comes too, along with everything else.