The workbook
A story can move you. A workbook makes it land
Quiet conversations between you and the woman you're becoming. Two editions. Compact enough for one weekend, or the whole journey with online support and The Phoenix Society. Both on Amazon.
Why this workbook exists
Paperback. To write in. To keep. To pass on.
Recognition without processing fades
Too many women closed the book, smiled for a second, and went on like nothing had happened. Not because Mirjam, Ruth, Gabriella and Emma didn’t reach them. Recognition just fades when you don’t do anything with it.
By morning you’re back in the same kitchen, same thoughts, same role. That’s the whole point of this workbook. Not to tell you what to do. To help you hear what you already know.
The answer isn’t in my head. It’s in yours.
My only job is to ask the right questions, at the right moment, in the right order.
Two editions. One choice.
Start compact, or make the whole journey
Both sell separately on Amazon, and with both you get to look inside a few real pages first.
- Recommended
Transformation edition
The whole journey, nothing skipped
~430 pages · 29 lessons · one for every chapter
- Everything in the basic, and a lot more
- An online course that walks you through it step by step
- A six-part ritual per lesson with core questions, deepening and challenges
- An action plan every week that turns each insight into a concrete step
- Access to The Phoenix Society, a live community of women
- Extras: the Phoenix Spotify playlist, a card game and the Spa Sister quiz
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Basic edition
The core, in a single weekend
~75 pages · 4 parts · 16 reflections
- Four parts that follow the book
- Compact rhythm: one core question, a short deepening, one micro-challenge
- Done in a single weekend (~4 hours)
- Room to write, in your own handwriting
Want to look inside a few real pages? Look inside the basic edition · Look inside the transformation edition
More than a workbook
With the Transformation edition
A workbook is usually a solo thing on paper. The Transformation edition isn’t. You get an online course that walks you through all twenty-nine lessons, step by step, plus access to The Phoenix Society, a live community full of women doing this exact journey.
An online course. Every lesson, digitally too. You fill it in on paper first, for yourself, then share online whatever you feel like sharing. One lesson page per chapter, leading you forward and saving your progress.
A community. Read answers from women you’ll never meet in person. Catch yourself in sentences you’d never have dared put on paper alone. Anonymous, on your own terms.
Online support, for the moments a question feels too big to answer by yourself.
A growing pile of extras: the Phoenix Spotify playlist, a card game of conversation starters, the Spa Sister quiz (which of the four women are you?), and whatever lands next.
Pour a glass. Close the door. Put your phone on airplane mode. Then begin, at your pace, on your terms. Here you’re not on your own.
What you'll learn here
No diploma, no certificate for the wall. Just six discoveries you won't lose again.
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Knowing your own desire
Not what you’re supposed to want, or what your partner expects. What actually lives under your skin. The voice you’ve been pushing away for years finally gets words.
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Language for what you feel
With no words, you can’t talk it through. Not with your partner, not even with yourself. Language is the first step toward choice.
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Shame untangled from intuition
Plenty of women confuse an imposed norm with an inner truth. This workbook helps you pull the two apart. Calmly, no judgment, at your own pace.
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Movement, not intentions
No big life choices under pressure. Just one concrete action per lesson, cut to your size. An insight without action stays an idea. The action plan turns it into a step.
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Women who walked ahead
In the online circle of The Phoenix Society you’ll read answers from women you’ll never meet, and catch yourself in sentences you’d never have dared write on your own.
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You're not broken
Maybe the most important one. What you feel isn’t wrong, or strange, or rare. It’s human. And you are not alone.
At the end you don’t walk away with new knowledge. You walk away with yourself.
They went before you
Four voices, raw and unpolished. Odds are you’ll recognize yourself in one of them.
I thought being alone was the problem. After this workbook I get it: the problem was that I didn’t know myself. Now I do. And suddenly being alone doesn’t feel lonely anymore.
I’m a lawyer. I argue for a living — but never for myself. My husband knows me better now than in fifteen years of marriage.
I thought I was too old to change. 58, widowed. Last week, for the first time in my life, I said out loud what I want. I trembled. And I laughed.
I thought: another self-help book full of platitudes. But this asks you questions you answer yourself. I learned more about myself in six weeks than in two years of therapy.
Ready to take yourself seriously?
Torn between the two? Go with the Transformation edition. The whole journey, with The Phoenix Society and all the extras. Both editions are out now in paperback on Amazon.